Seven Steps for Learning to Trust Again

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[caption id="attachment_208" align="alignnone" width="150"] Hope written in the sand at the beach waves in the background.[/caption] Kimberly had recently met a new man. She’d been so excited about this new relationship. She had taken so many steps to move past her divorce two years ago. She worked with a divorce coach to overcome her lingering issues, recommitted to her fitness goals, and had even taken up Yoga. Chris had seemed like the perfect guy. He was thoughtful, fun, and they always had such a great time together. She really thought they were heading in a more committed direction. However, he decided two months ago that he needed a break and had taken some time away from her. Now, he was back asking for another chance. He said he was sorry…
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Back to School Survival Tips for Families of Divorce

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With school events, sports, and fall activities starting up this fall, handling the communication about your children is a hassle when both parents live under the same roof. If you’re a family of divorce, it’s even more difficult. However, keeping the lines of communication after a divorce with your spouse is important for the sake of your children. Staying open and positive is essential, so parents may need to make the extra effort to stay organized.  How do you handle the keeping up with all the correspondence and activities when the stress of all the fall happenings start back up? The following tips that my family uses can help you stay organized when the hectic schedules gear up. Tip Number 1: Inform the school and the teachers Let teachers and…
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How to Help Your Children Feel Secure During Your Divorce

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How to Help Your Children Feel Secure During Your Divorce Divorce is a traumatic experience. It is the second most stressful event in the human experience. Parents can find the process overwhelming, unpredictable, and difficult. The experience can be even more traumatic for children as they lack control of their circumstances. The adults around them are making big decisions for them. However, there are some ways that parents can help children hold onto a sense of security throughout this difficult process. In addition to finding support for you and your children during divorce, it is important to keep many elements of your children’s day-to-day lives the same so you can help ease the transition for them. It will also ease the transition for you. Maintain Home and School Structure One…
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Ten Signs it’s Time for Your New Guy to Go!

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Kimberly had finally put her divorce behind her. She had gone back to school to earn that additional certification she wanted which allowed her to get the promotion at work. She had worked with a life coach to gain clarity on issues surrounding her divorce. She was feeling confident and happy and ready to move forward. She had joined an online dating site and was enjoying meeting new people. She recently met a guy, Chris. She thought there might be a future together. He was funny, attractive, and had a stable job. There was definitely chemistry between them. Yet, there were a few signs that were troubling her. Should she continue to see him? To start creating a descriptive essay, pick the issue you'll be describing. Clearly measure one is…
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Eight Rules for Dating When You’re a Divorced Mom

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Your divorce was a long and difficult journey. But now that you’ve overcome the heartache of your divorce, you feel like dipping your toes back into the water. For some women, getting back into the dating scene can seem daunting. For others, it is exciting and fun. Where ever you are in your journey, you will need to keep a few pointers in mind to make the most out of the dating pool. As a divorce coach, I’ve seen the mistakes women make when dating. Here are eight simple tips that can make the transition from single and sexy to finding a new man a little less complicated. Rule #1: Be sure you’re ready. Put in the work you need to in order to bring the healthiest, best version of…
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Five Tips for Communicating with your Ex about your Children

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Handling the communication during the divorce process about your children can be difficult. How do you handle the stress when the two parties can’t seem to agree on how to divide the time between the parents or how to handle discipline? Sometimes, parents weren’t on the same page about parenting when they were married. Then they struggle to work out parenting issues after parting ways. It is heartbreaking that many parents will try to use their kids as pawns during divorce negotiations. The following article will give you several tips to keep in mind as you navigate this stressful and tumultuous time. 1) Put the children’s needs FIRST. You may think that your ex is a jerk, but the fact remains that this is your child’s dad. It is imperative…
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Let Go of Bitterness

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Perhaps you are holding onto bitterness, anger, or resentment. You feel that you’ve been unjustly wronged and you continue to hold a grudge against your ex-spouse.  You dwell on the pain that was done to you. You tell anyone who’ll listen all the injustices you’ve been through. However, when you hold a grudge against those you feel have wronged you, you only hold yourself back from moving forward. In addition to the bitterness keeping you stuck, the Mayo Clinic has identified how holding onto bitterness may have the following toxic effects in many areas of your life. *Dwelling on past hurts robs of you of your present day joy. *Holding onto bitterness can spill into other relationships you have. *It can lead to depression or anxiety. *Bitterness causes us to…
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Five Tips to Cope With Changes at Work

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Work is probably a vitally important aspect of your life, whether you're working part time or full time, whether you're a seasoned professional or just stepping into your first internship. Our work gives us satisfaction and purpose, and challenges us to grow. We make friends at our jobs and sometimes even gain a sense of camaraderie that can last a lifetime. Not to mention, money earned at work allows us to provide for ourselves and our families. But sometimes changes occur at our jobs that cause ripples of distress throughout our lives.  When you face major changes at work, you'll likely experience confusion and frustration. Upheaval at work can cause uncertainty at every level of your life. And when there is uncertainty, fear and insecurity are not far behind. After all, when your livelihood is at stake, you're…
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Six Steps to Zen When You Need Control

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"Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.” – Chuang Tzu Recently, I was running an errand on a late Sunday afternoon. I was feeling frustrated that the errand I had wanted to do hours ago was only now getting done. So many other things had taken place during the weekend. I was thinking, "Here I am once again running out the door at 4 pm! Every weekend it's the same thing. I'm always running out at the last minute Sunday to do something that I wanted to get done earlier in the weekend."  And then something dawned on me. Rather than feeling frustrated and fighting this pattern, I decided to accept it. This is the…
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Five Tips to Cope With Changes at Work

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Work is probably a vitally important aspect of your life, whether you're working part time or full time, whether you're a seasoned professional or just stepping into your first internship. Our work gives us satisfaction and purpose, and challenges us to grow. We make friends at our jobs and sometimes even gain a sense of camaraderie that can last a lifetime. Not to mention, money earned at work allows us to provide for ourselves and our families. But sometimes changes occur at our jobs that cause ripples of distress throughout our lives.  When you face major changes at work, you'll likely experience confusion and frustration. Upheaval at work can cause uncertainty at every level of your life. And when there is uncertainty, fear and insecurity are not far behind. After all, when your livelihood is at stake, you're…
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