Eight Rules for Dating When You’re a Divorced Mom

Your divorce was a long and difficult journey. But now that you’ve overcome the heartache of your divorce, you feel like dipping your toes back into the water. For some women, getting back into the dating scene can seem daunting. For others, it is exciting and fun. Where ever you are in your journey, you will need to keep a few pointers in mind to make the most out of the dating pool. As a divorce coach, I’ve seen the mistakes women make when dating. Here are eight simple tips that can make the transition from single and sexy to finding a new man a little less complicated. Rule #1: Be sure you’re ready. Put in the work you need to in order to bring the healthiest, best version of…
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Five Tips for Communicating with your Ex about your Children

Handling the communication during the divorce process about your children can be difficult. How do you handle the stress when the two parties can’t seem to agree on how to divide the time between the parents or how to handle discipline? Sometimes, parents weren’t on the same page about parenting when they were married. Then they struggle to work out parenting issues after parting ways. It is heartbreaking that many parents will try to use their kids as pawns during divorce negotiations. The following article will give you several tips to keep in mind as you navigate this stressful and tumultuous time. 1) Put the children’s needs FIRST. You may think that your ex is a jerk, but the fact remains that this is your child’s dad. It is imperative…
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Let Go of Bitterness

Perhaps you are holding onto bitterness, anger, or resentment. You feel that you’ve been unjustly wronged and you continue to hold a grudge against your ex-spouse.  You dwell on the pain that was done to you. You tell anyone who’ll listen all the injustices you’ve been through. However, when you hold a grudge against those you feel have wronged you, you only hold yourself back from moving forward. In addition to the bitterness keeping you stuck, the Mayo Clinic has identified how holding onto bitterness may have the following toxic effects in many areas of your life. *Dwelling on past hurts robs of you of your present day joy. *Holding onto bitterness can spill into other relationships you have. *It can lead to depression or anxiety. *Bitterness causes us to…
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Five Tips to Cope With Changes at Work

Work is probably a vitally important aspect of your life, whether you're working part time or full time, whether you're a seasoned professional or just stepping into your first internship. Our work gives us satisfaction and purpose, and challenges us to grow. We make friends at our jobs and sometimes even gain a sense of camaraderie that can last a lifetime. Not to mention, money earned at work allows us to provide for ourselves and our families. But sometimes changes occur at our jobs that cause ripples of distress throughout our lives.  When you face major changes at work, you'll likely experience confusion and frustration. Upheaval at work can cause uncertainty at every level of your life. And when there is uncertainty, fear and insecurity are not far behind. After all, when your livelihood is at stake, you're…
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Six Steps to Zen When You Need Control

"Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.” – Chuang Tzu Recently, I was running an errand on a late Sunday afternoon. I was feeling frustrated that the errand I had wanted to do hours ago was only now getting done. So many other things had taken place during the weekend. I was thinking, "Here I am once again running out the door at 4 pm! Every weekend it's the same thing. I'm always running out at the last minute Sunday to do something that I wanted to get done earlier in the weekend."  And then something dawned on me. Rather than feeling frustrated and fighting this pattern, I decided to accept it. This is the…
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Five Tips to Cope With Changes at Work

Work is probably a vitally important aspect of your life, whether you're working part time or full time, whether you're a seasoned professional or just stepping into your first internship. Our work gives us satisfaction and purpose, and challenges us to grow. We make friends at our jobs and sometimes even gain a sense of camaraderie that can last a lifetime. Not to mention, money earned at work allows us to provide for ourselves and our families. But sometimes changes occur at our jobs that cause ripples of distress throughout our lives.  When you face major changes at work, you'll likely experience confusion and frustration. Upheaval at work can cause uncertainty at every level of your life. And when there is uncertainty, fear and insecurity are not far behind. After all, when your livelihood is at stake, you're…
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Six Steps to Zen When You Need Control

"Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.” – Chuang Tzu Recently, I was running an errand on a late Sunday afternoon. I was feeling frustrated that the errand I had wanted to do hours ago was only now getting done. So many other things had taken place during the weekend. I was thinking, "Here I am once again running out the door at 4 pm! Every weekend it's the same thing. I'm always running out at the last minute Sunday to do something that I wanted to get done earlier in the weekend."  And then something dawned on me. Rather than feeling frustrated and fighting this pattern, I decided to accept it. This is the…
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Stress Management 101: 4 Easy Steps Toward the Path to Inner Peace

Managing stress is a challenge for everyone during these hectic times. With recent technological advances, it becomes harder to find respite from the demands placed upon us. Here are some tips on how to manage stress. For more detailed information on how to manage stress, put the following practices into your life, find work/life balance, or to set up any personal goal, visit http://terrievanover.com to reserve personal coaching sessions. The first 30-minute consultation session is free. 4 Easy Steps to Manage Stress: Unplug. The first way to "recharge your batteries" is to disconnect! That's right—in order for you to find some peace, make it a daily habit to put away the phones and computers. Make it a rule that there is no technology during dinnertime. Enjoy these quiet moments just…
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Top Five Fall Family Activities

Autumn is the perfect time to harvest the love of your family and friends. It's a time to reconnect with nature as well as with your loved ones. Find activities that allow you to be mindful of nature's gifts. Be inspired by the vibrant colors of the trees, the crisp bite of a fresh apple. Delight in the texture of a newly picked pumpkin and its prickly stem. After reading my list of favorite fall activities, please share the activities that have positively impacted your family! Go Apple Picking- This family activity will delight each of your five senses! After enjoying being outdoors in the lovely orchard and choosing delicious apples, the best part is being able to take the apples home to eat and cook and bake to continue to enjoy…
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Change Your Mindset

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new." Socrates We've all encountered "failures". Or have we? Perhaps you should look at failure as another opportunity to find success. Don't look at a setback as a stumbling block. Instead, look at it as a stepping stone. When you encounter a setback to your goal, look at it as a learning experience rather than failure. Then,  after you've problem-solved, regrouped your resources, hired the right person, you'll realize that the setback was a problem that was a teaching tool in disguise. When we don't get the job, that promotion we desire, or the sales account we were counting on, we should look at what we can learn from the experience.…
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